Isn't it strange how the mind works? Sometimes things pop into my head out of the most unique places.
That has been happening to me recently. And it's been about the same subject.
I have been reminded lately of a guy I knew who lied his way around things. They weren't little white lies either. They were big whoppers, the kind of fibs that make you wonder if you can trust that person ever again. That is just what happened to this guy.
He claimed to have anything and everything you could think of. He had all kinds of gadgets and equipment that would fill any need that sprung to mind. But when it came to deliver on his promises, he disappeared like Jimmy Hoffa. He didn't return phone calls or emails until eventually people forgot what it was they needed from him.
Why is it that people want to make themselves look better than they are? Why do they tell people that they have done things that they really haven't done? It's always been a mystery to me that I'll never fully comprehend.
But to this guy I knew, it must have been a compulsion.
I learned from the very beginning that lying gets people in more trouble than just owning up to what you really are. If you lie, you have to keep coming up with more and more creative stories to support the original lie.
Eventually your lies become a house of cards, and the slightest little wind will knock them all down.
Well, that finally happened to this guy I knew. He told everyone that he was getting ready to graduate from college when the truth was he hadn't been attending for quite some time. Whatever possessed him to tell people that, no one will ever understand.
But the wind of truth toppled his stack of lies in no time.
No one could trust what he said anymore. Even the smallest things he would say had the strong possibility of being totally false. The people around him found out that his life was built on a series of illusions. And to the people who knew him best, his words will always be held in suspicion.
He kept coming around telling everyone how cool he was. I'm sorry, but if you have to pat yourself on the back, it just smacks of desperation. Those who promote themselves are always the ones who have done nothing of substance to begin with.
It's a sad story, but it is one that could have been avoided. If he had owned up to his misleading behavior people would have eventually forgotten.
Since he was caught red-handed though, I doubt there are any of his old friends left around.
You see, authentic trustworthiness is a necessary virtue - if you hope for people's acceptance.